Although asexuality in some people is a passionate debate nowadays, even then, strong sexual desires are the most common thing experienced by most humans. Irrespective of your sexuality, i-e, whether you are heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual, having sexual desires is typical behavior in most individuals. But as the excess of everything is bad for your overall health, the same rule applies to sexual desires.
People usually feel shy or uncomfortable while talking about their sexual desires or libido. So they try to find solutions for their uncontrolled sexual urges on the internet. Young adults, who realize the terrible effect of high sexual desires in themselves, often google “how to overcome sexual desires?” So that they can solve their problem on their own.
Getting rid of sexual desires is not possible. But the important thing is how to refrain.
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What Causes Sexual Desires?
Your hormones control sexual desires. After puberty, both males and females develop sexual desires influenced by biological factors like testosterone in boys and estrogen levels in girls.
Other than biological factors, psychological and social factors also influence this need of humans.
How Much Is Sexual Desire Normal?
The question is how much sexual urge is normal and what is the borderline between the abnormal and normal libido? It varies from person to person. As the baseline for normal libido depends on the individual. It depends on your personal preferences and health.
Sexual Relationship In Islam:
Being a Muslim and living in an Islamic state, we have to follow the rules and regulations of our religion and society. Having an intimate or sexual relationship is only religiously and lawfully legal when married to your partner. And in Islam, a marriage contract (nikah) is signed between two opposite genders (male and female). So, the first thing that should be clear in your mind is that having an intimate relationship is only legal or halal when you are married to your partner.
In other cases, the sexual relationship is considered zinna. Zinna is a sinful act in Islam that has strict punishment according to Islamic sharia.
Getting rid of sexual desire is not possible. But the important thing is how to refrain from using it in sinful ways and, on the other hand, to use it in the ways that Islam permits.
Having high sexual desire is bad for your health, but it also makes problems for you to follow religious and ethical boundaries.
Sexual Desire Before Marriage:
I agree that having sexual desire before marriage is normal. But your mind knows what your limits are according to your religion and society. As your body does not know whether you are married or not, it only follows what your hormones are directing.
Being Ashraf ul Makhlookat, humans know how to control their desires and needs. But sometimes, it is difficult for young adults to control their libido. Usually, this will end in pornography and masturbation addiction or, in severe cases, compulsive masturbation.
How To Control Sexual Urges When Single?
It is essential to control sexual urges that are leading you to sinful acts like zinnias or masturbation. Different methods and treatments can be used to control high sexual desire according to your condition. Some of them are as follow;
- Allah has given the solution to overcome your sexual needs by simply mentioning it Quran; lower your gaze to avoid looking at forbidden things and protect your private parts.
- According to Hadith, fasting is the best way to control your sexual desires. Apart from fasting in Ramadhan, you can fast in any month of the year. As we all know, during fasting, it is forbidden to see or do anything related to sexual activity. So it will be helpful for you to control your high sexual urges. But It is crucial to deny your nafs (inner desires) and follow the actual meaning of fast.
- Keep yourself busy in productive chores is another way to keep yourself away from unhealthy sexual desires. As you know, an idle mind is the home of the devil. So keep yourself busy in doing different things. You can select a new hobby for yourself or set goals to achieve so that your mind keeps itself busy.
- Avoid stimulating things like stories, novels, movies, videos, songs, or anything that increase your sexual temptations.
- Keep good company and try to avoid people who are indulged in sinful and unhealthy acts.
- Seek help from your Lord by praying for yourself. Do Dhikr – the remembrance of the Almighty Allah and Istighfaar-seek forgiveness in God.
Getting married is the best solution to use your sexual needs properly. But sometimes, marriage is not a solution if you have pornography addiction or other psychological problems related to your sexual needs. For that, you need proper treatment by a health professional. You can consult an urologist in Karachi for your issues related to sexual desires.
How To Control Sexual Urges In A Relationship?
Let’s consider this relationship between husband and wife. Some people have an addiction to bad habits that are not gone even after getting married. In this case, the individuals still indulge in bad habits like pornography, compulsive masturbation, and other sinful and unethical acts. Their partner, usually a female partner, suffers a lot due to these strange sexual urges of a person that are not fulfilled even by having an intimate relationship.
It is essential to consult the doctors and therapists who can treat your psychological problems to have a healthy relationship with your partner. It would be best if you also talked to your partner to help you overcome your bad habits. Try to keep yourself busy in healthy activities and focus on your life goals.
FAQs:
How much sexual desire is normal?
It varies from person to person. But having strong sexual desires that lead you to sinful acts like pornography and masturbation can be considered abnormal.
How to control your sexual desire while single?
You can control your sexual desire while single by lowering your gaze to avoid looking at the opposite gender that may increase your sexual urges, fasting, keeping yourself busy in productive tasks, making a strong bond with your Creator, etc.
How to control sexual urges in a relationship?
You can control sexual urges in a relationship if they create socio-occupational problems for you by communicating with your partner, keeping yourself busy in productive chores, and consulting psychologists.
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