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I am asking this question on a forum because I want the general view of multiple pscychologists and psychiatrists . My husband has BPD .He doesnot go to therapy .Refuses it.He send me divorce papers. (1st talaq) Im living with my parents now..He was verbally and physically abusive when he used to go in negative phase.While when mood was good he would be very kind ,romantic and cooperative as well..But his phases would never end .We have a one year old baby too.I am financially stable and can support myself .But I feel disturbed .He has put allegations on me as he would have paranoia repeatedly and would say that I lie to him about things and would not listen to me even though I tried to explain that what he thinks is untrue .He himself slapped me twice and told people that I slapped him thats why he slapped me in return .What should I do .It was a love and hate cycle .Do you people from your experience think that I should try and persuade him for counseulling again ? Do people with
Please don’t discuss confidential matters on open forum. He can go for DBT. I provide these services in Rawalpindi
Must be difficult experience.Seems Bipolar affective disorder.May be his medications were not in appropriate dose and counselling can help but there is bigger role of medications depending on his actual diagnosis.
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sir do you have personal experience in bpd patients ? Is it still worth it to pursue him as he himself divorced me
1 year ago
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the only reason im clinging to him is my memory of us when hes stable and our child
1 year ago
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we can discuss about ur concerns in appointment
1 year ago
Counselling at this stage might not work. Better to treat the paranoia and underlying psychopathology. Better to Consult for proper management on time. Regards
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This is a very challenging condition to be in. Various variables would decide the final outcome. If it's just this acute condition which is caused by illness then effort should be made to get him better. But it seems problems are widespread and emotionally taxing for other members . As suggested above choose a suitable doctor and work through it to understand the nature of the issue. Things could be better if appropriately approached.
Is your husband taking and medicine? Can you convince him for therapy online? Are you a housewife or you go to work as well?
I think divorce is not a good option as your baby is only 1 year old and that can take create a negative impact on him. Try to focus all your energy on yourself. Ignore him and be self independant, that way you both can create healthy personal boundaries with eachother. Giving eachother space on a daily basis can help in love/hate cycle clashes. Try to be less expressive!
Men usually avoid taking treatment for their issues. Your case can be managed but it'll require you to do double efforts. If you are willing to do that then we can discuss a management plan through sessions
1 year ago
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