Marriage Issue

My husband is highly ethical man but we are having lack of physical relationship since born of our baby .. having 3 -4 times in 9 month journey that too was my initiative .. whenever i tried to talk over matter ..he become hyper and v end up with argument .. also initially he was comfortable for monetary terms bt again since past 9 months not only he has taken home expense from me bt also not giving me my pocket money despite of my reminders.. i fl suffocated and unrest all time..he's earning well but highly busy with his work .. my question is .. whether respect is everything..I shouldn't crave to normal my life? At times i want to end up my relation .. pls guide me

saadia-nazir-tazeem-psychologist-lahore

MS (Clinical Psychology) | Lahore

Sorry to hear abt the relationship problem, first I would like to know how ur husband lost interest in bejng intimate with u? Wat made him go away ? Was there special precautions during the time of pre n post natal time.?
His version is imp. N also ur beh towards him .duration if ur marriage should mentioned also. How many months have passed following d birth of a baby.
Also wat is his routine n has he stopped being intimate atall, like hugging ,kissing ,or caressing or just avoiding the intercourselves with u?
All D details are important. Also if feasible look in to d fact if he has felt bad abt ur behaviour in any form? Issue is hr has stopped giving u ur poket money, y sudden change in beh? U need to visit a psychologist n discuss all aspects dt cn not b discussed I dis open forum.
I would suggest u ring at 042-32591427,
N take appointment for consultation
Ins u will feel alive.
As for ur question, yes u have a right to ask him n also take step to improve ur life it is imp. N u should take initiative, otherwise it will kI'll ur self esteem n it won't help u on d long run. Also ur husband's relationship with ur child is also to b considered

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My kid is 9 months .. n yes i was victim of postpartum depression too .. I'm extremely caring towards him but sometimes i lost my temper too and in each case i m the one to say sorry ..
The reason i fl in losing interest may b my daughter is sleeping between us .. and yes we do hug but again that is my initiative
Regarding pocket money i feel he has too many responsibilities from his parents side amd they are pressurizing him to buy a home so he's saving madly but my point is .. that is not my issue ..i will surely take an appointment as I'm not in pak that's y seeking online guidance

1 year ago

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Duration is about two years and before arrival of LO he was v normal.. it is just after visit of my mother in law for 5 months that has pushed him away too

1 year ago

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And he is a good father Alhumdullilah

1 year ago

Saadia Nazir Tazeem
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So now u see issues are becoming clear ,u seriously need to discuss all dis in detail, I'm glad u r understanding this probe of urs in detail n realizing wat is upsetting
Post partum k liay u also need treatment . Here I cn provide u guideline d way I have done.
Kindly b polite n kind to urself n take consultation from a professional cl psychologist for detailed intervention n management.
U cn fix an appointment at 042-32591427, n u will ins improve in a month
Best wishes

1 year ago

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