Talk to Psychologist on Sex Drive
Asking for Self, Female, 22 years old, Lahore
My problem is I am 22 yrs old female. Its been 5 years since I feel like I should have sex. I am unmarried and obviously because of religion I can't just have it with anyone. I really am thinking to get married because now I can't control its getting really difficult. I do watch porn sometimes. I know its a sin too but I watch like once a week. When it really gets difficult to control. I don't masturbate just wait for orgasm that I get in 5 mins. I know its weird but I am really worried now. As we all know our culture i cant discuss it with anyone and my parents think I am too young to get married. Please suggest is watching risky for health and future?
Ms. Rabia Tanveer - Psychologist
MSc (Psychology), Diploma (Clinical Psychology), BTTC (Behavioral Therapy Training Course), ADCP, Training of Addiction Professionals of Pakistan, DHMS | Gujranwala
Aoa dear client..I can understand.. you can book an appointment through boht khayal rakhen
Daniyal Riaz - Psychologist
Mphil (Clinical Psychology), Lisenced Hypnotherapist (USA) | Karachi
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Sana Tahir - Psychologist
Bachelors in Psychology, MS Clinical Psychology | Lahore
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Women has urges just like men so its normal to have sexual urges but masturbation eventually can lead to issue. Its better to talk freely about your sexuality and how you can expreas it and channel your energy. Make an appointment and talk about it.
Ms Moafia Malik - Psychologist
Masters (Applied Psychology), MS (Clinical Psychology), Certification (Hypnotherapy) | Lahore
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definitely watching is risky too for world and after world too try to make your self busy in work and some quality time with your loved one you will be able to distract your self with this freling
Dr. Zohra Batool - Psychologist
MPhil (Clinical Psychology), PhD (Clinical Psychology) | Lahore
42 Positive Reviews
Dear, urge for sex from the start of puberty is normal, although you need to be careful here is an uncontrollable urge. For this, since as you mentioned it is creating problem for you. I would suggest you to consult psychologist to process the disturbance which you are going through.
you may contact via for appointment.
take care!
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Can you plz advise if sex is the solution? So I can convince my parents to get me married. Maybe once I have sex, these feelings will go away?
6 years ago
MPhil (Clinical Psychology), PhD (Clinical Psychology) | Lahore | Book Appointment
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in your condition sex is not the only solution. you need to seek professional help first, which seems important
6 years ago
You need to listen carefully.
Porn is addictive. There is a well known type of learning which is observational Learning and there are mirror neuron. When you watch porn , mirror neuron gives same arrousal as if you are in a sex. These neurons activates. And you will go into the same cycle of sex lubrication, arrousal, fully arroused then orgasm, and after orgasm going back to normal state. In normal state you feel like oh shit i have done some horrible, i have done wrong , oh i must not watch porn again etc.
Watching porn is equal to be in a sex. Because porn gives same sex cycle as in physical intercourse. Biological Watching porn is like having sex with someone. biological for unmarried person watching porn is like committing illicit sex. So it is same sin as having sex with someone....
Another thing I mentioned is observational Learning. When someone watches porn, he/ she will start to believe that sex should be the way as depicted in these videos. Every time he/she watches porn ,this belief will get stronger and stronger. Porn is not normal sexual behaviour. In porn paid actors are instructed to do extremes. Like a normal film ,there is a director and a script in porn filmography. Porn teaches you false expectations of sex. When porn user gets married, he/she will expect same extremes from his/her partner. When those expectations will not fullfil, here starts the frustration,anger,fights between the couple and things go to so much extreme that they either remain unhappy, sad, depressed or they go for divorce or they go for extra marital affairs. Some self proclaimed genius couple go for sexual products to meet there Expectations. Like they will buy Viagra, Cialis, sprays, pills. Porn ultimate goal is letting you buy there sexual products.
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So yes watching porn is highly risky for health and future.
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Ahmed
Dr knows better than me, but i think its natural, unfortunately in our society parents don't understand the need of their children and same time they always take them as kids, you are 22 now MASHALLAH, but for them you are still kid, but in real you were get adult on the same day when you had period, it means at that day you became a matured girl who have sex desires, sex its like hunger of food, its time to discuss with your or your elder sister to make it possible for Sha Allah
must pray namaz and seek forgiveness from Allah, He will made a easy and halal way for you soon.
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