Talk to Psychologist on Struggling With Physical Attraction
Asking For Self, Female 27, Lahore
Hello Doctor,
I need your guidance regarding a personal issue I’m facing with my life partner. Emotionally, he is an amazing person—caring, loving, and supportive. I see his efforts, and I know he genuinely loves me. However, I am struggling with something very important in our relationship.
I don’t feel a physical attraction toward him the way I should. Even though I have tried to develop that connection, I still don’t get those feelings. When he touches me in an intimate way, I feel uncomfortable, and I often stop him. I have even tried to initiate physical closeness myself to see if I feel anything, but nothing changes.
I understand that physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship, and I want to accept him in that way, but I don’t know how to overcome this barrier. I don’t have any personal issues or past traumas that I am aware of. It’s just that my heart and body don’t naturally respond to him in a romantic way.
I’m confused and don’t know what to do. I don’t want
Dr. Muhammad Zubair - Psychologist
MS psychology, M.Sc Applied Psychology, PHD Clinical Psychology | Islamabad
There are lot of contradiction in the case presented and same might be the reason in experiencing ambivalent feelings with cognition and feelings are not aligned....It is not common but there are roots especially in the early childhood.
Dr Asad Ahmad Rao - Psychologist
MSCP (Gold Medalist), ADCP, DIP-ACU, MSc. Psychology, Dip.HM, RHMP, Cert. Clinical Nutrition | Lahore
44 Positive Reviews
a psychological therapy called couple therapy works here and you can take an appointment from a clinical psychologist. You and your couple both need to involve in the session and during the session first it will be discussed and just about the issue and then therapeutic work will be start. I am here to help. you can make an appointment with me in a clinical setup situated in Lahore.
Nisar Ahmad - Psychologist
| BS (Hons) in Psychology | MS (Clinical Psychology) | | Charsadda
94 Positive Reviews
Its understandable to feel confused when emotional and physical attraction don’t align in a relationship. Various factors can contribute to this, and exploring your feelings in a supportive space can provide clarity. Counseling can help identify any underlying reasons and guide you toward a solution that aligns with your well-being. I recommend booking an appointment for a personalized session to discuss this further. Feel free to reach out to schedule a consultation.
Abdul Rehman - Psychologist
BS (Hons) Psychology, Certified of clinical hypnotherapy, Certified in positive psychiatry and mental health , MS.Psychology | Lahore
47 Positive Reviews
Thank you for sharing your concerns—it’s clear you value your relationship deeply. Physical attraction can be complicated, and your feelings are valid. Consider exploring whether this disconnect stems from unmet needs or compatibility. Open communication with your partner, possibly guided by a therapist, may help clarify next steps. Remember, a fulfilling relationship requires alignment in both emotional and physical connection. You deserve honesty and happiness, whatever path you choose.
book your session for further discussion
Ms. Aqsa Faqir - Psychologist
Advanced Diploma in Clinical Psychology, MSC Psychology , MPhil Psychology | Burewala
12 Positive Reviews
book your appointment for a session through Marham thanks!
Rabail Jan - Psychologist
Masters in Psychology (UK), BSc Applied Psychology | Lahore
8 Positive Reviews
Hi hope you are well! Answering here would give you a vague response. I have done a lot of relationship sessions. Would love to help you.
book your appointment... discuss in detail all situation..thank you
book your appointment... discuss in detail all situation..thank you
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Ms. Shehzana Valliani - Psychologist
Level 5 - Advance Diploma Integrative Practitioner, Level 6 - Supervisor Integrative Practitioner | Karachi
7 Positive Reviews
kindly book therapy session with me through Marham
dear there r different aspects of our life that are not highlighted just because of ignorance or lack of knowledge .in ur case u can book my appointment as I'm a marriage counselor.
you need proper sessions
This time is very important for you. The guy is taking care of you but you are not attracted to him. You should book a session with us so we can guide you further on this.
there may be some reasons behind this issue, or some beliefs that needs to be addressed. In a therapeutic session we may discuss / assess these beliefs and ways to change them. please book an online appointment for detailed assessment and treatment.
np it's common in relationship u need some session along with treatment that increase ur desire it good u want to do it if feasible than book appointment there are medicine that increase ur desire towards ur partner with pleasure
Saadia Atif - Clinical Psychologist
BS Applied Psychology, MS Clinical Psychology | Lahore
50 Positive Reviews
psychologist here
I guess there's definitely something you're not able to articulate yet. how about we have a sessions Nd see where it's coming from!
once the triggers are found, it'll be easier to work on your anxiety
you may reach out to me for consultation
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Asma Imran - Psychologist
M.Sc Psychology, ADCP (Advanced Diploma Clinical Psychology), P.G.D (Speech and Language Pathology) | Multan
21 Positive Reviews
yes it is treatable ...book appointment with me ..
Farhana Shams - Clinical Psychologist
BS.Hons (Psychology), Post Graduate Diploma (Clinical Psychologist), M.Phil (Applied Psychology) | Mansehra
108 Positive Reviews
consult a clinical psychologist for assessment and Psychotherapy sessions to identify the underlying root causes.
you can also book an appointment with me.
thank you
sometimes our body doesnot respond according to situation few minerals can treat this issue .plz book ur appointment
Step by step slowly move forward don’t rush
Ms. Tehmina Asghar - Psychologist
MSc Clinical Psychology, NLP Master Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner | Lahore
303 Positive Reviews
Hey!
If you dont have any personal issues n past traumas,then it could be a hormonal disturbance.
For how long are you married n is it the same since day one?
Also,if you really love your husband n can see his sincerity in this relationship, it's a plus point, do focus on what do you need from a relationship.Take care of your husband's emotional needs, being a male, he has some specific natural need for which Islam has Nikah obligatory. He may get distracted if your behaviour wont change.
Take an appointment for session to discuss further.
JazakAllah
Tehmina Asghar
Lahore
Things will be fine InshaAllah
Book a Session with me And we will Discuss about this And I am Offering Almost Free Consultation For some Time God Bless you
Ms. Atika Abbasi - Psychologist
| BS Psychology |, MS Clinical psychology | Islamabad
72 Positive Reviews
it has multiple reasons kch cases mei ye kisi trauma abuse harrasment ya multiple or.reasons ki wja sy bhi hoskta ha isk ilawa kch hormonal disturbancr ki wja sy bhi hoskta ha if you are willing to cope this you can contact so that we can resolve this
Ms. Nimra Bashir - Psychologist
B.Sc (Psychology), M.Sc (Psychology), ADCP (Advanced Diploma in Clinical Psychology), MPhil Psychology | Gujranwala
25 Positive Reviews
To accurately understand your concerns, a proper assessment is essential. Kindly book an appointment with me through marham, so we can proceed with diagnosis and develop an effective treatment plan. Thank you.
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