Talk to Psychologist on Problem In Eye Contact
Asking For Self, Male 26, Karachi
I have a problem with eye contact when speaking to anyone. About 3 years ago, a friend once talked to me while staring intensely into my eyes in a strange way, and somehow I developed the same habit now whenever I start a conversation, I automatically look straight into the other person’s eyes in an unnatural, fixed way that makes them uncomfortable, and I know it does.
It’s not a confidence or social anxiety issue I’ve always been very confident and love talking to people but this feels completely out of my control I’ve tried softening or adjusting my gaze with no success, and it’s like my brain forces me to maintain direct eye contact, which is really bothering me.
Have you met someone who has this issue and what's the solution?
Asif Raza Sheikh - Psychologist
Masters (Clinical Psychology), ADCP (Advance Diploma in Clinical Psychology), CDCP(Child Diploma in Clinical Psychology) | Islamabad
We all have certain kind of behaviours. Some are good some are inappropriate. Always our behaviours are strengthen by reinforcement on other words we learn these behaviours. Behaviours can be improved or modified. If you really feel that other people feel uncomfortable while communicating with you then you need to modify it. Here question is what factors are are playing role as you sat that it is uncontrollable and if you periodically look here and there what you think and what u feel. This detail is required
Sammra Akhtar - Psychologist
(Gold-Medalist) MS in Clinical Psychology MSCP, ADCP, NLP, Hypnotherapist, Clinical Psychologist | Lahore
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Nisar Ahmad - Psychologist
| BS (Hons) in Psychology | MS (Clinical Psychology) | | Mansehra
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What you are experiencing is actually quite understandable and something I have seen before in practice. After that intense eye-contact experience, your mind likely became overly aware of eye contact, turning something that is normally automatic into a behavior you now consciously monitor. When the brain tries to control a natural process.it often becomes rigid and uncomfortable,even in confident people. This doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you it is simply a learned habit of attention. The key is to stop trying to fix your gaze and gently shift your focus to listening and connecting with the person instead. With time, and sometimes a bit of guided psychological work like mindfulness or CBT, this habit usually settles on its own.
Ms Maryam Khushnood - Psychologist
MS (Clinical Psychology), Diploma in Speech Therapy | Sargodha
85 Positive Reviews
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Dr. Zainab Waheed - Psychologist
PhD (Clinical Psychology), M.Phil (Clinical Psychology), Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Psychology, Postgraduate Certificate in Cognitive Behavior Therapies | Peshawar
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Ms. Fakhra Wakil - Psychologist
| MS Clinical Psychology | Advanced Diploma in Clinical Psychology (ADCP) | | Lahore
22 Positive Reviews
have you been told by someone that you are looking into their eyes strangely? if not then it can be your obsession
Fizzah Shahzad - Psychologist
BS Applied Psychology, MPHIL Applied Psychology | Lahore
5 Positive Reviews
there are many solutions of it . book an appointment so will talk about it and fix it ..it can be fixable through proper sessions , and psychological methods .i am glad that you talk about your issues openly . kindly book and appointment so we can fix this together.
Shagufta Naseem ( Clinical Psychologist) - Psychologist
BS. Psychology, MS Clinical Psychology | Quetta
The issue you describe sounds like an involuntary habit of intense, fixed eye contact that makes others uncomfortable and bothers you because you can’t control it, even though you’re generally confident in social situations.
A practical approach to handling this is to break the habit with awareness and simple behavioral techniques:
1. Notice the trigger: When you start a conversation, consciously recognize the urge to lock eyes.
2. Shift your gaze: Train yourself to look at another point on the person’s face (e.g., the nose or forehead) for a few seconds, then briefly return to the eyes. This softens the intensity.
3. Use the 3‑second rule: Maintain eye contact for about 3 seconds, then glance away naturally before returning. This mimics normal conversational eye movement.
4. Practice relaxation: When you feel the compulsion to stare, take a slow breath and remind yourself to relax your eye muscles.
5. Seek professional help: A therapist (especially one specializing in cognitive‑behavioral techniques) can help you identify the underlying pattern and teach specific exercises to retrain your eye‑contact behavior.
People with similar issues often find that mixing awareness exercises with brief professional guidance (like CBT techniques) resolves the unwanted staring habit and makes conversations feel more natural.
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Ms Sana Mehmood - Psychologist
|MSc Psychology| | ADCP ( Avance Diploma in Clinical psycology) | | Gujranwala
38 Positive Reviews
usually people face difficulty in maintaining eye contact during conversation. they hesitate to do so. in your case it is the opposite. but there is nothing to worry about dear.. psychology always deals with both sides (extreme and low). it can be managed by some exercises or skills learned on a psychological basis. you just need to book an online appointment at marham, you will feel betterment in you in shaa Allah.
Mr. Muhammad Shafiq Langah - Psychologist
MSc (Clinical Psychology), M.Phil. (Clinical Psychology)* | Karachi
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You need help, and you are very brave for choosing the path of seeking help. Let’s work on this together—step by step.
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It is a manageable problem, don’t worry. We can discuss it in our booked session. Book your appointment
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your issue is managable with NLP techniques.
actually i can say this is NLP technique to look at otners eye moment to see tbe clues for truthful conversation of other person.
you need to seek about whole technique and use for.good purpose.may be you can fix issue with said technique of our psychologist team here but is best to take a counsaltation with NLP practionar.
you can book session with me.if your problem still not resolved.
eye clue technique any person can detect the lie of other person,as well manapulation etc.
Ms. Mishma Fakhar - Psychologist
BS (Hons) Psychology, Advance Diploma in Clinical Psychology (ADCP) | Rawalpindi
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Zainab - Psychologist
MPHIL Psychology | Rawalpindi
It is a manageable issue for detailed discussion you can book appointment
yes I deal with these kinds of focused attention issues, book your consultation to discuss it further.
yes I deal with these kinds of focused attention issues, book your consultation to discuss it further.
yes I deal with these kinds of focused attention issues, book your consultation to discuss it further.
yes I deal with these kinds of focused attention issues, book your consultation to discuss it further.
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How can online sessions really help if you can’t actually observe my eye contact issue? When I talk to someone, where exactly should I look in their eyes? I feel like virtual sessions might not be effective for this.
1 month ago
Ms. Nayab Bukhari - Psychologist
MSc (Applied Psychology), MS (Clinical Psychology) | Sialkot
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This is more common than people think, and it’s usually related to learned behavior and heightened self-monitoring rather than confidence issues. book your appointment so we can discuss your issue in details...
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How can online sessions really help if you can’t actually observe my eye contact issue? When I talk to someone, where exactly should I look in their eyes? I feel like virtual sessions might not be effective for this.
1 month ago
Jovairia Bilal - Psychologist
MSc Psychology | Karachi
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I want to meet in person! but please tell me have you meet/treat this type of person who has the same problem?
1 month ago
Asma Aslam - Psychologist
MSc Applied Psychology, MS Special Education | Rahim Yar Khan
9 Positive Reviews
What you were describing sounds like a learned habbit linked to heightened self-monitoring not a personality flaw. This is actually more common than you think and very treatable. With brief therapeutic techniques (like awareness training and gaze regulation exercises) this can be unlearned. A few focused sessions can help you regain natural ,comfortable eye contact.plz contact me through Marham .
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How can online sessions really help if you can’t actually observe my eye contact issue? When I talk to someone, where exactly should I look in their eyes? I feel like virtual sessions might not be effective for this don't you think the same way?
1 month ago
Ms. Aqsa Faqir - Psychologist
Advanced Diploma in Clinical Psychology, MSC Psychology , MPhil Psychology | Burewala
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Abbas Ali - Psychologist
M.Sc Applied Psychology, Professional Psychologist Training from PYPA | Lahore
15 Positive Reviews
By rehearsal you can improve with this issue.In session we can create that situation or try to practice for that.
Ms. Atika Abbasi - Psychologist
| BS Psychology |, MS Clinical psychology | Islamabad
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yes there are alot of people with same issue but need detailed assesment to guide you or help you
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MSc Applied Psychology , CBT , NLP diploma | Rawalpindi
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Kainat Khan - Psychologist
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Yes, this does happen. What you’re describing is a learned reflex, not a personality flaw or lack of control. Your brain copied a behavior during an intense interaction and now runs it automatically, good thing is that this can be retrained. I can work on gently breaking the eye-contact reflex through awareness training, gaze flexibility exercises, and nervous-system regulation—so eye contact becomes natural again, not forced. With a few focused sessions, most people see clear improvement so will you.
Dr. Muhammad Zubair - Psychologist
MS psychology, M.Sc Applied Psychology, PHD Clinical Psychology | Islamabad
15 Positive Reviews
communication adjustments while interacting with others perhaps need awareness and balance. With little social ,emotional and cognitive awareness this problem can be managed effectively.
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BS (Hons) Psychology, MS (Clinical Psychology) | Islamabad
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Ehsan Zafar Awan - Psychologist
MSc (Applied Psychology) Certification in Psychiatry Post Graduate Diploma in Applied Psychology, MS Level in Subjects organizational Behaviour & Management | Rawalpindi
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It can be body dysmorphic Disorder. For necessary diagnosis I would suggest take a therapy session
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