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Asking for Self, Male, 25 years old, lahore
I am suffering from this issue since my teen age which is ,i feel so much sexual desire since teen age but i couldnt fullfill that due to family reason . my this desire have reached to the most peak level from last few months .I m unable to marry bcz parents day you should earn first good amount like 30+ and they don't think for marriage right now.and I do masturbation for this then.i don't have good job right now ..hardly I can control is 5-7 days even though I try to fast pray namaz even then .guide me what to do?
I can totally understand what you are going through and it is very normal .... do not control it as masterbation is a normal reaction to your situation.... what other things are they will help in improving your situation but for sexual satisfaction currently masterbation is the solution.... but yes I agree that marriage is the best solution that is why our Allah and prophet has asked and prefer to go for marriage if you have en elder brother who is married or cousin you may try to convince your parents through them and about job it is all luck so you cannot waste life based on luck you never know when you will have a good job especially in current situation..... do not get angry make yourself convincing with arguments and prefer a simple marriage rather than too much money spending etc
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parents say that how will you feed other person.
no i dont have elder sibling
and is masturbation the solution? is it fine to do in these circumstances as people say masturbation is harmful etc.. in Islam there are mixed views that it is sinful or not
4 years ago
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No no dear it is not a sin at all... it is better than to do a sin or zinna... yes masterbation is the good solutions and temporary solution until you get married and it is not harmful at all not physically not mentally .... just take care of your diet and exercise daily which will not effect the health of male organs .... good nutritious diet is very compulsory
4 years ago
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The more you control it the more desire will increase so do not control it let it be ....
4 years ago
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exactly this is what i am going through forcefully trying to control but it comes back strong
how can i maintain a good healthy organ? which exercise as u said it doesnt affect organ.. i am keeping diet but as we all know masturbation results in losing the nutritions so what can I do along with masturbation do that i have a good male heath
i have stil 4 5 years to get married
4 years ago
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Do not control it .., the more you control the desire the more it will come back forcefully ... masterbate when the urge comes ... rest you can take honey dates highly nutritious stuff in your diet after every 2 days then proteins are very necessary for male organ health and also for male fluids .... in exercises male kegels are the best
4 years ago
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One is kegel. Then is Pilates which includes knee fallouts, supine foot raises, and pelvic curl. Then third is aerobic exercises which includes cycling rowing running, and boxing .... you can watch YouTube tutorials for all of them
4 years ago
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kegel is the one while urinating u stop and release. am i right?
protein as in processed tin ones or natural like eggs
honey specifically after 2 days? why is it so? my frequency is to masturbate every 2nd day sadly
4 years ago
MS (Applied Psychology), Certified Hypnotherapist | Rawalpindi | Book Appointment
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No not while urinating ... go watch a tutorial... if you still do not understand let me know I will explain ... I just randomly said to take it after every 2 day as honey is expansive too... proteins means natural ones like eggs meat etc green leafy vegetables and nuts .... please follow what I am saying that do not think about it do not control it .... until your marriage situation is solve accept the masterbation and enjoy it so you do not get frustrated and irritated okkk
4 years ago
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just watched it. 'in it they say to lift the body up while laying.. is it true. there are mixed videos.. can you guide
4 years ago
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Kegel exercises can be done any time you are sitting or lying down. You can do them when you are eating, sitting at your desk, driving, and when you are resting or watching television. A Kegel exercise is like pretending you have to urinate and then holding it. You relax and tighten the muscles that control urine flow. It is important to find the right muscles to tighten.
Next time you have to urinate, start to go and then stop. Feel the muscles in your vagina (for women), bladder, or anus get tight and move up. These are the pelvic floor muscles. If you feel them tighten, you have done the exercise right. Your thighs, buttock muscles, and abdomen should remain relaxed. Once you know what the movement feels like, do Kegel exercises 3 times a day:
Make sure your bladder is empty, then sit or lie down.
Tighten your pelvic floor muscles. Hold tight and count 3 to 5 seconds.
Relax the muscles and count 3 to 5 seconds.
Repeat 10 times, 3 times a day (morning, afternoon, and night).
Breathe deeply and relax your body when you are doing these exercises. Make sure you are not tightening your stomach, thigh, buttock, or chest muscles.
After 4 to 6 weeks, you should feel better and have fewer symptoms. Keep doing the exercises, but do not increase how many you do. Overdoing it can lead to straining when you urinate or move your bowels.
Some notes of caution:
Once you learn how to do them, do not practice Kegel exercises at the same time you are urinating more than twice a month. Doing the exercises while you are urinating can weaken your pelvic floor muscles over time or cause damage to bladder and kidneys.
4 years ago
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isnt it for women? should males do like this too? that's what i said earlier like to urinate and hold and then urinate and hold.. i didnt get why at last it been said that it weak the muscles
4 years ago
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It’s for both and it weakens muscle if you stop doing it and if you do it very extensively with pressure do it lightly and casually .... read it carefully it is for both
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Read carefully pretend that you are urinating not in actual
4 years ago
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Everything is possible one main thing is determination to get rid of it .... watching porn and doing masterbation is two different things .... watching porn for enjoyment and watching porn to get help for masterbation is something different .... first you need good imagination power to imagine a situation that can help you complete masterbation process and then eventually it can be stopped .... also you can read an exotic situation imagine that and get help in masterbation.... for your situation I need more information about you
4 years ago
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if you know let us know why allah made these organs so sensitive. Like for irritation if we scratch the testicle little bit ut pains.its too sensitive organ for us males
4 years ago
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It is mainly because this organ is half inside and half outside the body and carrying two main functions at the same time. One is urinating and other is intercourse so inside lies a complex network of capillaries and blood flow and fluids that is why it is bit sensitive in nature .... it is advisors to avoid harsh masterbation or harsh sex because it can be bruised easily which causes pain why? Because of the thin sensitive protective layer on it .... so handle with care and caution .... if it is sensitive too much than check may be some hit or trauma to the area, or may have a Urinary tract infection....
4 years ago
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no i mean it pains when while playing a ball hits or normally something mistakenly hit it..
is it really half inner? isnt it all outer. yes you r right maybe due to nerves.. but i hv observed its a sensitive organ
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Yes it is half inner and half outer... because of the sensitive fluids inside and capillary network as I told earlier that is why you feel pain when get hit.... it is extremely highly advisable to protect these areas while playing because it can cause permanent damage to the organ these are the most softer parts with complex function that is why it hurts a lot
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Information as such like when it all started and how and have you ever yourself tried to refrain from it etc etc
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Yes exactly
4 years ago
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dear ali.. book the consultation with doctor as i think consultation like this are not allowed thats why it is not showing number.. book online consultation
4 years ago
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and instead of asking doctor permission you are giving your number. you should take their number for consultation
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I’m trying to explain as much as I can ... rest you can post your query separately or can take a session but choose wisely
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And MR Ali I am unable to see your comments now
4 years ago
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mam have you studied physiology or anatomy along with psychology
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Yes little bit physiology and anatomy
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Yes I know and also how it works
4 years ago
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does this masturbation habbit goes with female gender too or is it only male gender hyper sexual now a days in pk?
3 years ago
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Yes it goes for both genders but is most common in males ..... females do not report it so any further information is difficult to say.... actually it is a human body need just like you feel hungry or need to go to washroom so sex urges are also like bodies need to be fulfilled so do not think that you are alone almost every next person is going through this .... if you want to go through sessions you can take appointment by emailing me on this address mariasami@gmail.com
3 years ago
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masturbation controlled. planning to get married next year or so. I am black and unaware of how Cn I maintain a good sexual relationship with partner. I need detailed counseling on sexual relationship and wedding night arrangement. Who to contact? which field person or any other institution
Can you let us know
3 years ago
Dear concerned, I can understand your feelings you can contact me through Marham.Pk online video clinic and we can discuss how you can easily improve your urge.
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masturbation controlled. planning to get married next year or so. I am black and unaware of how Cn I maintain a good sexual relationship with partner. I need detailed counseling on sexual relationship and wedding night arrangement. Who to contact? which field person or any other institution
Can you let us know
3 years ago
where do you live??
I can understand your feelings dear.... in the absence of legal relationships this urge is normal.... we need to have more details from you before starting therapy to control this urge..... plz share your WhatsApp number or contact me at my wats app 042-32591427,
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4 years ago
Stop watching porn movies. Indulge yourself in physical activities as much as possible like jogging, gym etc. Distract your mind by doing some constructive work and try to get a job which requires physical exertion
due to corona virus. marriage is still not possible at least 2 to 3 month.even if u inform your parents clearly about your masturbation frequency today. i think u start fasting for sake of God 1 month before ramzaan. rest leave on God .
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make your schedule. then fill it daily. make a list of your life goals. make yourself busy in completion of these goals... learn to do your work by your own. in order too distract yourself you have to learn new skills or to enhance already learnt skills. for further long time guidance consult a behavioral psychologist
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By reading your problem … especially the way you have it out, it is clear that you are stuck with your stated issue for quite some time now. Although you have been trying to gain control, as yet you have not been successful in doing so. Few things are needed to be addressed here, therefore I am going to lay it out you, one by one.
First, the problem you are facing as in your own words is “so much sexual desire” since your teenage years. Regarding this, I would like to communicate to you that it is not unnatural to feel the way you do at this stage of your life. Unfortunately, due to the lack of education on ‘sex’ in our society (and country), people are usually not aware of the most basic facts and principles about the matters of one’s sexual life. The fact is, everyone (given no abnormalities) face this particular issue (that you are facing) in their teen years as well as in the years of their early adulthood. But with the time they learn to control themselves appropriately and keep their uncivilized self at bay. Moreover, almost every well-educated psychologist would tell you that your behavior is not considered problematic until and unless it does not affect your daily functioning in any way. By the look of things, it seems that you can control your urges for 5-7 days by adhering to salah (namaz) most of the time, which is a very good thing. I would also like to advise you to identify and refrain from any predisposing factors that intensify such feelings in you. These factors could include anything (but not restricted to) such as watching porn, having a social circle that encourages such activities and discussions, not having a balanced diet, not doing any physical and/or mental exercises, etc.
Second, as you have mentioned that your family is not in favor of your marriage at this moment because you do not have a source of income. At the same time, the solution to your problem according to you is getting married. I can understand your frustration because of this conflict. On this matter, I would like to bring your attention to the fact that these intense feelings start to subside with time (with age). The decision about getting married at this moment could solve your problem for the time being but could also turn out to be the wrong decision in the long term. Moreover, I would also like to mention that from the pragmatic as well as the religious perspective your family is trying to push you the right way. Therefore, I would like to suggest you consider everything before plunging to a decision.
I hope my reply would help you to take care of your-self in a better way. If even now you find it difficult to sort things out, please do not hesitate to consult a good psychologist.
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By reading your problem … especially the way you have it out, it is clear that you are stuck with your stated issue for quite some time now. Although you have been trying to gain control, as yet you have not been successful in doing so. Few things are needed to be addressed here, therefore I am going to lay it out you, one by one.
First, the problem you are facing as in your own words is “so much sexual desire” since your teenage years. Regarding this, I would like to communicate to you that it is not unnatural to feel the way you do at this stage of your life. Unfortunately, due to the lack of education on ‘sex’ in our society (and country), people are usually not aware of the most basic facts and principles about the matters of one’s sexual life. The fact is, everyone (given no abnormalities) face this particular issue (that you are facing) in their teen years as well as in the years of their early adulthood. But with the time they learn to control themselves appropriately and keep their uncivilized self at bay. Moreover, almost every well-educated psychologist would tell you that your behavior is not considered problematic until and unless it does not affect your daily functioning in any way. By the look of things, it seems that you can control your urges for 5-7 days by adhering to salah (namaz) most of the time, which is a very good thing. I would also like to advise you to identify and refrain from any predisposing factors that intensify such feelings in you. These factors could include anything (but not restricted to) such as watching porn, having a social circle that encourages such activities and discussions, not having a balanced diet, not doing any physical and/or mental exercises, etc.
Second, as you have mentioned that your family is not in favor of your marriage at this moment because you do not have a source of income. At the same time, the solution to your problem according to you is getting married. I can understand your frustration because of this conflict. On this matter, I would like to bring your attention to the fact that these intense feelings start to subside with time (with age). The decision about getting married at this moment could solve your problem for the time being but could also turn out to be the wrong decision in the long term. Moreover, I would also like to mention that from the pragmatic as well as the religious perspective your family is trying to push you the right way. Therefore, I would like to suggest you consider everything before plunging to a decision.
I hope my reply would help you to take care of your-self in a better way. If even now you find it difficult to sort things out, please do not hesitate to consult a good psychologist.
just imagine if you get a chance to marry with some one. how often you going to perform sex. yes bro peobably every day or more than once in a day and every time when perform sex you going to ejaculate same sperm so what do you think what going to happen with you. No bro its just a psychological thing or misinformation
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masturbation controlled. planning to get married next year or so. I am black and unaware of how Cn I maintain a good sexual relationship with partner. I need detailed counseling on sexual relationship and wedding night arrangement. Who to contact? which field person or any other institution
Can you let us know
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masturbation habbit due to desires which is not getting controlled
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