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Asking for Self, Female, 22 years old, karachi
I'm asexual. I have to sexual desires . I've known that since I learned what sex was. Later I discovered I was Repulsed to sex. It was disgusting. I knew to some degree that it was important in marriage but never thought much of it. I didn't want to marry. But may parents being asian and Pakistani of course wanted me to be married off early so I was. 25 days ago. I dreaded every single day leading up to it and wanted to die on the marriage day because now I wasn't just repulsed I was scared of what was to come (continue)
Patient
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(2/6)
my professor tried to help she has some background in counselling. but this isn't her ground. she suggested I talk with my spouse to put off the first night activity and hope he understands. She tried to help but she's not knowledgeable on this. Either way I did postponed the sex. He said he understands and it's okay to do it later. We tried a few days later and my whole body went into some sort of shock and numbness at the touches only on upper body. He got scared I think(or maybe pretended to be) and said he won't touch me again and sleep on the floor until I'm ready but I was scared that sleeping on the floor so early into marriage would raise questions if anyone saw. So I convinced him to sleep on the bed but each time he did (3) he would not be able to control himself and touch. Remove my shirt and my whole body shook like a leaf until I begged him to stop. I never said no when he asked but honestly the lust wouldn't let him stop even if I said not to do it. It's like my breathing even turns him on. So far 25 days into married life we've tried (or he has) 5/6 times only to fail each time. And it's only touching. I passed out once and cried another time.
kindly consult to psychotherapist for sexual dysfunction issues
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First every distress has a solution. Through Step By Step Process, You can conquer your fear of sex. Systematic Desensitisation is a technique that has to be employed in your situation. Every behaviour can be learnt. Sexual Behaviour Can also be learnt with proper Knowledge. so relax
Patient
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it's not a phobia or anxiety, it's repulse. I wrote it above, I'm disgusted by it. it's gross it's unthinkable, I know, in our society where people like me are a minority, it would be hard to understand but I genuinely hate such intimacy to the point that even trying it is wrecking me. I AM afraid but if the concequences that this will lead so. im 22. I know maybe I will change but what about now. what do I do right now to not ruin everything
2 years ago
I am there to help you....You can book your session.
Hy your psychologist here please give us your full details so you can seek proper treatment book an appointment.
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Book your session with psychologist
please book online session for detail history and consultation
if you mean that you hate sexual activity then it is genophobia but for proper assessment, diagnosis and treatment complete history is required furthermore psychoanalysis and hypnotherapy is much effective in such issues
book your appointment for better treatment n consultation thankyou
you need to get appointment with the professional psychologist
you need different Psychosexual therapy with counseling. You also need some emotional season. Get appointment from Psycho sex therapist
detailed history needed for better outcome
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Repluse can be converted into impulse.
I can understand your problem. you have to take sessions so that I may help you in a better way.
book an appointment for more details.Regards
Hey! i hope i will be able to help you to some extent. Contact for a consultation session. so that we can go into more details .InshaAllah you will be able to live a normal life.
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Tehmina Asghar
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Dear , don’t overthink too much take it easy first of all! And book my appointment I’ll guide you further
Thank you for sharing with me this is a very common treatable condition which may lead to unconsumate marriage.
be reassured.
kindly consultant online to help you better.
Thank You
Patient
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(3/6)
My body just completely rejects sex and touch. I hate it. I feel disgusted, his skin, smell and touch feel horrible and gross and I can't stand the thought of the actual thing. I know I can't postponed much longer because sooner or later my husband will snap. I don't want to cause issues in marriage and trouble my parents if any issue is created . Honestly we're both from well educated backgrounds but jahaalat knows no boundaries and I have no hope of this not being an issue. no matter what education a person has, they're helpless against lust and desire. and this nation Frankly is jahil. not like we haven't seen girls get divorced for reasons less than this.
2 years ago
Patient
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(4/6). I personally don't care if I remain single forever or never get touched again but I know my parent will die if something happens to my marriage because of this, or anything. But I also know if I go through with this sex and stuff I WILL die. I hate to say it but suicide in the most painful way would be better than this. I don't know what to do and who to go to.
2 years ago
Patient
Post Owner
(5/6) How to get out of this. Don't tell me it's just a phase or shyness I know it's not. I know myself. It's repulse. I hate it. My body hates it. Please, help me.
2 years ago
Patient
Post Owner
(6/6) I wanted to go to a hospital, try to talk to a person who can help but idk where to go, who to ask on such a taboo matter. and how to do all this without letting everyone know. my mom only knows about the fact that we haven't done any sex stuff since and she's so so worried. she's not the strongest of person neither is my father. I don't want to victimize myself (I've already laid myself bare here, exposed myself) or anything but I have depression, social anxiety and self harm issues. I don't want to do anything Haram and end my life but every day, I die a little . every night is dreadful I can't sleep until my husband leaves for work in the morning. this is hell. not marriage. Please help me and Dua for me if u can't.
2 years ago
Ms Applied Psychology, ADCP | Lahore | Book Appointment
ur husband is coperative or understanding or not?
2 years ago
Ms Applied Psychology, ADCP | Lahore | Book Appointment
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2 years ago