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Dear parents, we are doing this amazing Q/A session with psychologist Ayesha Shahid Shiekh will help the parents in improving their behavior with children. Kids learn a lot a lot from their parents. e.g if you shout unnecessary on children or you hit them while they are doing homework or you use a lot of phone around them, etc etc... So what are the wrong things you do and you think you can take help for that. Feel free to post in comments and you will get the response. Thank You!!
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Khush Bakht Rauf
Aoa i shout unnecessaraly ????. I am afraid my six yo daughter is losing confidence????????????????
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Rubab Zahra
I think I overreact on many occasions.. my husband is a good father he is calm and always try to give time to kids. But my kids repeats my behavior
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I do not understand how to motivate my 3 years daughter for eating properly. Oftenly i get angry because of it. Another major problem that we ladies in joint family face that we shout at our babies to show our anger for other people.if someone is doing wrong with my children instead of asking them i shout on my child. What would I do?
5 years ago
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yes certainly they will.
children learn for our behaviors.
if father is polite and u arent they will get offended from you. that will be harmful in the long run
5 years ago
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reply to user 2:
motivation is the best thing to do with kids we all feel happy when appreciated.
use rewrad charts for kids to appreciate them its a form of behavioural modification
moreover i can totally understand the level of your frustration and stress in joint family but please understand,
you child is your world he is your first priority. he is blank slate when ever you ll do,say it will engrave on his mind. your behavior will impact him badly.
he is looking at you for protection plz empowwer your self to say no to anyone who harms your child.
i have seen kids gets against their parents when they grow up.
plz take a motivational session once.
5 years ago
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Sarwat Usman
My 4.5years old boy don't take interest in books... I don't know how to develop his interest.. he becomes very stubborn sometimes even in every matter..like he wants to dress up of his own choice...n he is very loud as well but shy at school.... I don't know how to deal with him.. I don't want him to become complicated as he grows up..
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A child starts being stubborn when he is reinforced for his stubbornness. You need to identify, where and when the child is reinforced wrongly. That ll surely help you out.
5 years ago
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Rabia Abid
I got too much angry with my kids specially when they don't eat properly or when anything that can harm them ....
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Hey.
ofcourse, children can at times make you loose patient but you need to understand that loosing control of your emotions is not the solution.
It just makes you an agressive parent in the eye of child and then will start copying at some point too.
5 years ago
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Samina Bugti
I have 3 kids I shout at them unnecessarily I get irritated very easily and I m always in a hurry tell me how to overcome these
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you possibly need a parental counseling session.im sure it will help you
5 years ago
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Khurshid Alam
How should we deal with a 3 years old when she throws unnecessary tantrums??
Secondly, if we want a child not to repeat a certain thing how should we deal with this issue
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its bit lengthy process to explain here but here are few points:
she is 3 years old remember that..her behavior is learned or a response nothing personal not a sign of bad parenting relax
second it changed very easily.
avoid to respond every time she need something
try to identify the reason.there is always a reason
accept her feeling and validate them
try to to be calm or at least pretend you.
goodluck
5 years ago
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Amna Khand
i have very critical issue respected dr. mujhe btanay k liae kafi details btani pari gi to me kesay btaon ? kindly koi b buray comments mat karen. im to much upset.
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See a psychologist in person i would suggest.
5 years ago
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Maryam Minarah Tariq
My mother used to shout on little things I know how she throws me out when I was almost 4 yr old and she even hits my head on wall. There are lot of things I had experience in my childhood and teenage. After marriage my MIL is almost same. I experienced worst in-laws ever. When I was pregnant with first child my MIL and husband blames me for making fake impotency certificate of him. This is not getting out of my mind there are lot if things in my head. I had habbit if plucking my hair when I was panic. Or if something triggers that reminds me what happens in past with me. Weather it was done by my parents or inlaws.Things got better but I feel I am dealing my son almost same as my mom and gets angry on little things. He changes his behavior alot specially after newborn baby. I started shouting at him even I beat him too. Recently after realizing I stop beating but shouting is still exist. I am losing control on my temper. And Everytime I am always cranky. What should I do. I want my son to be the same as he was before. Before new baby he is confident and talks with random person too much but now he is getting shy day by day.
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I would say that in this case, you need to see a psychologist. It can be seen that you have goje through a number of problems which are pretty stressfull for you. You need to tackle with your own stress first so that you can move forward with a healthy life.
5 years ago
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i can understand what bad parenting brings about in your persoanlity.
i would highly encourage you to please take a session it is very important for you because you ll reflect them on your babies
5 years ago
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Whom to contact. I clearly told my husband I need to see psychologist but he denied to take me.
I cannot go alone. What would I say to my MiL and hubby. I have toddler and 4 year old to take care
5 years ago
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dear if you cant go take on phone consultion
5 years ago
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Amna fahd
Salam.. My 3 year old daughter is very sensitive, she use to think about little thing which other kids even didn't consider.. Like if anyone (kids) call her gandi bavhi she used to ask mama kia mai gandi bachi hu..and many more...she is so sensitive what can i do
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Putting labels on children can effect their view about their own self which can lead on to problematic behaviors. Make sure that you dont call your child with these names. Also debate with her on things. If she is asking for different kind of explanations, that simply means she has a curious mind.
5 years ago
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have to ever called her with any such word in anger?
some kids are just senstive by nature.
every child is not same
appreciate her as much as possible
validate her make her feel important.assign her tasks a little ones and appreciate her after words. make her realize that no matter what she did or will do she will be loved
it will surely help
5 years ago
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Ilma Shan
My elder daughter is now 7 yrs old most of tje time i shouted on her or sometimes hit her bcoz i feel she is now grown up in some aspects that she should behave properly n now i feel she damn care what m saying all the day to her.. even she's not concentrating on her studies as well what should i do.. m soo much worried mom
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Well, a 7 years old child can't behave in a responsible manner like an older kid would do. If she is having hyperactivity and lack of concentration though, i would suggest that you see a specialist such a child psychologist to deal with the problem.
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as i stated earlier children get offended by parents.
being working as a psychologist in educational setting it is very common.
she is clearly disturbed and hurt
take her for counseling or her school has that and talk to her for that you need a session as well
5 years ago
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Rabeea Rehman
Yes, I shout alot on my 6 and 4 year old....this effects their confident...but can't help it...its loosing their confidence..whay should I do
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Start expressing your emotions in a suitable way. If you are stressed yourself for some reason, make sure that you solve it. Otherwise you will keep on showing this behavior and your children will learn it too.
5 years ago
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simple dont do it.
adapt healthy ways of parenting
5 years ago
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Madiha Ijaz
I am a loving mother and i manages my all house course plus my kids studies plus quran learning of kids by my self. But sometimes during all this tough routine i shout and I feel so helpless at that time that no matter i don't want to i still do it.. after which i excuses my 8 yr old son and say sorry to him and cuddle my 2 yrs . I need serious anger management for my self.
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Well as you just said that you need anger management, then i would suggest that you see a psychologist once or twice to learn to manage emotional expresssion in a suitable way.
5 years ago
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yes indeed you do.
take a session.
sometimes we need an extra bit of motivation for that
5 years ago
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Madiha Ijaz
There is question regarding parenting of my husband and myself.. ny son is 8 yrs old and he is good boy generally. But sometimes when i scold him or get little harsh with him for any of his mistakes for his upbringing like using bathroom properly, eat without dripping,clean ur room mess etc my husband unintentionally support him a lot like i will do it,i will clean it etc i feel so pissed off that it effects my relationship with my son. We (me n my husband)argue ao much on these issues that I find my self so helpless.. there is so much talk between us about this but of no use. How do i manage these things as i feel my son doesn't listen me in these matters and i feel he is getting close to his father then me. Although i am the only one who take care of his studies and daily duties. My husband doesn't watch any of daily activities regarding children..
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This happens when the parents dont have an equal hold on the child. It is essential that you both share equal responsibilities for raising him so that he doesn't get put off from one parent.
5 years ago
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it happens and when it does who balance gets out.
does your child has a counselor at school?
5 years ago
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Hina84 Khan
i beat my 8 years old boy badly and can not control my anger and in result he has started stammering. worried but can not overcome it.help
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take a counselling session in personal or on call
5 years ago
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probably yes she will.
parents are the first source of comfort for a child,
using behavioral corrections in a calm way to help child understand between acceptable and non acceptable behavior.
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